Review: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov
My rating: 2 of 5 stars

A friend of mine suggested this book and in the title intrigued me to read the book. Basically, this book is a self-help book for women who are too nice to guys and help them in retaining the guys in their life. This book was a fun read and the basic idea of the book is, women shouldn’t lose her dignity to please the male. The basic idea is good and the initial pieces of advice make sense.

But as the book progresses the author’s idea felt a bit offensive and degrading women. These ideas work for the so-called Alpha male. In the generation where we are struggling to bring the mindset of equality going submissive to satisfy the male ego shouldn’t be encouraged.

Place yourselves above the need to sustain the relationships and many other ideas totally pissed me off. Especially when the dumb fox theory was introduced, it says play sneaky and gets your job done by satisfying the male ego. But now isn’t it contradicting the idea of keeping dignity over the relationship?

The initial chapters dealing with the choice, preferences and individuality over anything else is good and later the author suggests the technique of manipulation and deception. This might be useful to please the conservative thinking alpha males, but aren’t we interested in the empowerment of women and help in changing the attitude of men?

And finally, this books has nothing to do with or talks about love. So if a relationship book which never talks about love but talks about sustaining the relationship brings in a lot of questions. The offensive title made me read to find that it was not meant as an offensive remark and then went to full offensive mode. Being passive aggressive to your partner to do what you want to do talks a lot about the relationship.

If a couple can’t open up and be themselves in the other’s presence then what is the point of being in a relationship. I would recommend the book to the readers to have a fun ride and never take anything serious. You might like the first half of the book, don’t get offended by the second half. This is just a modernised version what a conservative mums says to their daughters once upon a time.


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